I'll try to keep this short, it's just very nice to finally have my own story to share. I work for an absolutely horrible supervisor. Mean. Untrusting. Unkind. Emotionally manipulative. People I've spoken to outside of work have described experiences with them as “emotionally scarring” and like “emotional whiplash.”
Paranoid (thinks coworkers are constantly out to undermine their “power”). Weird (has asked me directly for “loyalty” to them). They're super stressed, and take it out on the people they supervise. They don't respect other people's time at all. I had a 1:1 scheduled, it got cancelled last minute. Rescheduled for the next day. Cancelled again.
Friday shows up I'm sitting in the meeting and a half hour of staring at the screen, their assistant calls me to say hey your boss can't make it. That happens often, never even so much as a “sorry about that “
I'd wake up anxious af every morning. I'd dread going in. I tried talking to them about how i felt unsupported and needed more structure, and they'd get extremely defensive, say that's just the way it is, and place the blame on me. (Mind you the first time I asked for and received no additional support was only three weeks into the job…)
Finally decided it was time to quit. I talk about this a lot in therapy and after months of trying to manage up and do things outside of work to stay sane, even my therapist agreed it was time to straight up quit.
So I did. Sent in my letter of resignation on Sunday, saying I'd rather have done it in person but it didn't seem like we'd get a chance to speak anytime soon… No answer. Went half the week not even acknowledging it.
Calls me out the blue on Wednesday and says “get i only have a minute but your last day, can you give us a few more weeks? That's not really enough time to find someone.”
Lol. That was literally the first thing they said to me in acknowledgement. No, no I can't because the rain I'm leaving is literally that medical professionals agree you're bad for my physical and mental health.
I feel very lucky that I'm in a position I can do this. And this sub has inspired me. I've got a part time job lined up along with savings to pay the bills etc while i look for full-time work, and i already feel much less stress. Best decision I've made for myself lately.