Throwaway account, I saw some post about managerial mistreatment on here and wanted to see if anyone has suggestions/info.
Long story short: I, the only full-time 100% remote person on my team, finally had the opportunity to speak candidly to a fellow team member about our boss's abusive behavior. I had no idea any one was experiencing the same thing I was. Our boss is a fake southern nice person, who regularly belittles us and since she has decided she doesn't like us both has essentially stopped giving us work but little “projects” that are pointless and regularly leave us with no feedback or results from our work. My team member called to ask about a project that he's working on that I essentially completed last week. So I sent him my final project but that led us to talk. Our boss displays clear favoritism, he's confirmed that everyone (including those she favorites) hate them, and that he's also suffered verbal abuse from them. The only difference is when they did it to me via email and slack, I gave them a freaking tongue lashing over zoom and reported them to HR. they haven't been outright rude to me in awhile because of it. So he's suffering a little more from that than me. They tell us consistently that we should look at other companies and jobs too. But we also figured something out, they love trauma dumping on us. All the personal issues they are going through and regularly tells both of us in our 1:1s, and mind you most of their bad behavior happens when they are interacting with us individually and is a little (but not much) covert when in a group (I guess they consistently tell my team member in meetings that they knows he's afraid of them Infront of other people under the guise of a “joke”). I told him to do what I do and just do what's asked and not a thing more and keep collecting that paycheck. He was in shock but I pointed out I have been with the company longer than most of the team including manager. I also told him to send all his notes on their interactions to HR because they already have a few complaints thanks to yours truly.
But my real question is, since they keep regularly trauma dumping on us and doing other toxic behavior, could we tell HR that we fear they are not mentally well enough to continue leading the team since they keep taking it out on us and mistreating us a clear result of their “issues” both at home and in the workplace?