So, I admire my boss very much. They have an amazing work ethic, are very smart and are fantastic at what they do, which is no surprise since they have been doing it for 30+ years. The field I work in is very hard to get into with no experience, but I got an interview and was hired on the spot. Apparently there is high turnover for this position. Not always, but just for my boss specifically. Then, as time went on, I realized why… I started at $16/hr which was fine because I had no experience and I still live with my parents. As the months went on, I started getting berated more and more for mistakes, and some days I have so much anxiety I get chest pains. Sometimes they make me feel pretty awful about myself, but that might be partially my bad for taking things personally. Some days (when I don't make any mistakes and they are in a good mood) they are great and I have a pretty fun time at work. I feel like I'm in an abusive relationship. I'm a good worker and everyone else in the office loves me. I live in a place that is #1 for the highest living costs in the US. I'm thinking about moving out soon, but rent in this area combined with utilities, parking fees, and other mandatory BS fees is more than I make in a month. There is a job close by here where I would make almost twice as much, have more days off (the shifts are longer), and $5,000 a year for school tuition reimbursement. I really need to either A. take that job instead or B. ask my boss for a significant raise, but I feel so guilty. My boss does great work and I see every day how much they really help people. It took months to train me up and I just feel like I'm abandoning them in their time of need. I know this is ridiculous but I guess I'm just looking for some advice/a pep talk. I'm usually a very extroverted person but I am so scared to do this.