I recently returned to work at a high volume, locally owned restaurant that I had worked at last year. Since I left, my old GM (who I loved) got hired for something more aligned with his interests and was replaced by this guy who i’ll just call M.
M seems to have some kind of social ineptitude that I can’t put my finger on, but it ultimately makes him come across as kind of creepy and he also always seems to be on a bit of a power trip while also being more stressed out than anyone else in the restaurant. He just sucks in general, everyone agrees.
Yesterday, though, he crossed a line with me and I can’t get it out of my head.
I was kind of bent over by the servers station in a bit of pain because I was on my period. M noticed and just came up to me and said “there’s ibuprofen in the office if you need it.” Nothing else said, I appreciated that and didn’t really mind the assumption as it was just obvious I was in some pain.
10 minutes later, Im standing by the bar and he comes up and in a very loud voice, as the bartender, one of my other managers, and the bar back are in the vicinity he says: “Yeah so I was married before, I know all about those kinds of ‘women’s issues’ so that’s why I noticed you must be in ‘that time.’” “Im just glad that I had a son and not a daughter for that reason though laughs to himself”
I couldn’t tell if anyone else heard and it’s not that I care much about people knowing i’m on my period or not, it’s a normal thing that happens, but it’s the way he tried to have a conversation about it with me AT ALL and further within ear shot of a bunch of people. That’s just weird.
I feel uncomfortable around him now alongside some other weird comments he’s made to me and apparently to some other girls I work with. My friend said he told her she needs to “get with a man who has a kid” for some reason and with me, he’s tried to help me carry heavy baskets with silverware in them saying “see, there are gentlemen out there, you just have to find them.”
Should I speak to the owner or one of my other managers who I trust? Is it worth it?