When I was in college I had prof that always told us that we should order our priorities as 1. Family 2. Firm 3. Friends.
This last year alone I’ve had 3 coworkers die and 2 by suicide. The other night I was forced to work late due to my boss making promises to others we could not keep, but I had to prove we attempted by working outrageous hours. I noticed then not once would my work step in and offer help if I needed it. Nor would they support me if I told them I needed help or set up boundaries. If I called my friend though he would drop everything to come over.
This teaching of work over friends is so fucked up. Work won’t be there for you when you need them. If anyone teaches you to put work before relationships I would ask who will show up when you need them most. We don’t live to work we work to live.