Hey all not sure if this is the right place to post this so please LMK if better served in another subreddit.
I joined a company at a level too low and assumed they would promote me fluidly since they are a startup. Well of course that didn’t happen – they promoted me to the role I’ve already been doing for a year after a year, with the minimum possible salary. They told me this is the fastest they promote & the highest raise I could have gotten. This irks me because my another guy who started at the same time, doing the same work, but with a higher starting tile has been promoted twice and makes $60k more. Furthermore the boss myopically elevates his contributions as “Director-level” while minimizing and denigrating my contributions as “analyst level” – he is better at managing up and she is easily influenced, and since I came in lower, her optics of me have been warped (lesson learned to manage this going forward). She is the founder of the company so her perception of me also signals to others, and I feel super squashed down by her and resentful and frustrated that my potential is not allowed to shine .
I have realized this woman is incompetent and someone I don’t respect, and that I need to move to an org/team that will value me more. I am starting to job search, But while I am still
Here I still need to talk to her day to day and I just really hate her and cannot focus on anything else when I talk to her. I hate the mental energy and space this feeling / my anger and anxiety occupy and would love any tips to not let it get to me so much and to reclaim my worth