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OPS team lead for a big 4 bank, i started paternity leave and can’t bring myself to go back.

Per title I manage a team at one of the big 4 banks, the pay and benefits are amazing but the work is hollow. This wasn't a problem until i reached my current role where as a manager i am obligated to care so much more and work so long in such a bullshit job. I'm in meetings and scrums all day about what needs to be done instead of just hiring more people to do the actual work. This whole situation was exacerbated by the birth of my daughter, as soon as i held her in my arms i knew what i did was not important. That being said, as i was trying to be a good leader i delayed my paternity leave and took only two weeks off before coming back to a hellish tax season, one of my co-workers pukes daily from the stress and other teams…


Per title I manage a team at one of the big 4 banks, the pay and benefits are amazing but the work is hollow. This wasn't a problem until i reached my current role where as a manager i am obligated to care so much more and work so long in such a bullshit job. I'm in meetings and scrums all day about what needs to be done instead of just hiring more people to do the actual work. This whole situation was exacerbated by the birth of my daughter, as soon as i held her in my arms i knew what i did was not important. That being said, as i was trying to be a good leader i delayed my paternity leave and took only two weeks off before coming back to a hellish tax season, one of my co-workers pukes daily from the stress and other teams are putting in 15hr days easily. Meanwhile, i have a 3 person team, one member was on their own delayed paternity leave (My manager pressured him to delay taking leave for a year, and then that manager left by the time he could actually take leave) and the other was new with no experience so i was doing essentially 3 people's jobs by myself while caring for a newborn.

This brings me to what i wanted to talk about, i pulled the ripcord to take paternity leave early because i burned out. Putting in the time to do a good job was killing me and taking a huge toll on my wife, after only 3 days of paternity leave she told me she actually enjoys being around me again. When my wife told me that i decided i'm not going back to work for them, at least not as a manager. Now that i am actually looking for real meaningful jobs that have an impact on society i'm seeing they all don't pay nearly enough for a decent standard of living. Has anyone experienced something similar or have any advice for someone trying to transition out of the corporate world?

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