So, my mom has been ill for a few months. It started with a horrible staph infection in April, she received sub par care at the hospital she was at in MS, so we moved her to live with my husband and I here in CO. She suddenly had a stroke on Monday morning, and was doing fine breathing wise but she has mucous in her lungs/her lungs are completely blocked, so the pulmonologist is going to clean her lungs out and put her on a vent, as she can’t really swallow right now and clear out mucous herself, he said it is a better option ultimately. To me, that feels like a death sentence. I got that call at 4:45 this morning. I have already been devastated this week, but now even more so. My brother is flying in tonight to be with us until Wednesday. My boss had been decent this week-she let me off Mon and Tues, and has let me leave work 2.5 hours early every day this week. With my brother coming into town, and with my mom’s condition being what it is, I asked if I could have mon and tues of next week off to spend time with family. She asked I work until noon. I compromised. But what really got me is that she said “I want for you to remember you’re not getting off work for a vacation”….I was like, I’m sorry? She said “you’re getting off to go take care of your mom, not spend time and hang out with your brother.” I told her that it certainly is not being treated that way, but it will be a relief to have family in town. I left it at that, but I am fuming-how insensitive and cruel can you be?! How in the HELL could ANYONE think that I would feel like I’m on a vacation, as my mother sits in the hospital, potentially dying?! God forbid my brother and I take a drive around town and spend time together-that might be too much “fun” that I am apparently not allowed to have. I spend all day at the hospital every day. I could use some quality time with family AFTER spending all day at the hospital together to try to take our minds off of it. I seriously wish I could just walk the fuck out of here but I can’t, I need the financial stability. My boss has been horrible to me before, but I’ve been trying to work through it and thought she was being decent this week, but I guess she’s out of patience with me. Just had to share-I am broken, have enough on my plate, and it’s hard enough to work AT ALL, but for her to say that? Now I know I have to leave this office, which is another stressor waiting for me in the future. Already left a vm with HR to document this. Fuck everything