Posted originally on the autistic adults subreddit and was told to post here. I did so a bit over a month ago but it has gotten much worse. For the record I am an autistic afab person.
How do you guys deal with bosses that straight up refuse to communicate with you in ways you understand?
The new office coordinator (the person above me and below the office manager) is making my life hell. She’s been in charge since beginning of January and as soon as things start to get better they get worse. I brought several examples to the office manager (who’s in charge of everyone) and got told it’s actually me who needs to kiss her ass more.
One example of many is:
I have told her “hey this set of instructions doesn’t make sense to me and I don’t feel comfortable doing this task because the guidelines we’ve been given are very vague” (the task was something usually done by nurses and was temporary but I am not medically trained)
She said “well this office is just like that. You’ll have to get used to it. Figure it out.” Which is not something the previous person in her job EVER did.
Any time there is an issue and I’ve “done something wrong” she’ll chew my ass out then walk away and tattle to the manager before I can explain myself or get clarification or anything. I’ve cried or had anxiety attacks several times a week for a month and a half.
I could type for hours about all the awful fucking shit they’ve put me (and the two others in my position) through but I hope those two examples demonstrate how one sided the Communication is.
Finally I reached a breaking point and spoke to my boss about these issues and I was gaslighted and told actually it’s me who needs to do better and that I’ve made her feel unwelcome. That I hadn’t given her enough grace. I explained that I have shown a tremendous amount of grace which is why this is the first time they’re hearing from me about these issues even though they’ve been going on for a month and a half.
They blatantly lied to me about various issues that had been “brought to their attention” concerning things I had said (that hand to God I had never said). I’m not in a financial position to quit nor do I feel like I can leave this job with a decent reference even tho I have been told I’m the fastest learner and more reliable person in the job.
If they want me gone they’ll have to fire me.
What do I fucking do.