It's a local restaurant. (fuck it, Copper House – Evansville, Indiana)
I was the longest employee they had there. I worked very hard from the start until yesterday. Recently, my daughter has gotten very sick. After a series of doctors appointments and calling in/being late –
I was told “I'm picking and choosing my own hours”
SO
The sous chef and kitchen manager are dating. They have been for years. And they are workaholics. This is their career and passion, so they (mostly she) will work 15 hour days, not taking breaks to use the restroom, won't eat –
And complains about everyone the entire time. She has fired people, or run them out the door, just for not liking them…
Yesterday my daughter had another coughing episode. These can last a while, and I have to give her a series of breathing treatments/medication.
At first, I didn't think I'd be able to make it in.
And then I texted her back, telling her I will be there, and I will work as long as you need me, but I have to wait for my mother to get here.
Flashforward, I'm calling trying to figure out when they need me/if they need me. No one has responded at this point. Ideally, I should have just gone in, but we may have had to take my 5yo to the ER again.
So, I'm just trying to figure shit out. Yeah, I'm sure they're busy – but it's a less than 1 minute phone call to figure this out.
I was very very close with the kitchen manager. I became very worried about her health and taking care of her. She was also extremely contradictive in things she would say one day to the next. She was also.. kind of just.. mean and noticably OCD. The worst I've ever seen.
I've never met someone that will work themselves to almost literal death, and then complain about it every. single. day to every She was loyal to no one.
Stating, “she has to work this hard. It's not the the bosses job to cover these shifts or find help, it's hers.”
And “I'm a part of the problem as to why she's getting sick from work/working too much”
I'm 26F. Sous chef 32M. Kitchen Manager 32F. and Owner/Boss/Head Chef is 33F.
(If that's relevant at all)
Alright, long story short. I'm finally told not to come in by KM. And if I want to keep my job I have to speak with the boss.
I send texts respectfully resigning. Apologizing for putting them out yet another person, but obviously I need time for my child and sanity right now.
KM responds with something shitty, but also stating she's sorry for how this went down and she “hates herself” for it.
(Implying we still have our friendship. We have hung out outside of work but she has had a part in this. I know her too well)
Boss never responded.
But the schedule gets posted and I'm on it.
Should I finish out my last week, I ask?
I really don't want to do this, but it's only fair to you guys if you're so pissed about it? Should I just not come back like you told me today?
The day goes on, and I'm starting to really get pissed. Why? Because my kid who has to go to Riley Hospital is sick? Why? I've done so much for them. Bought them $60+ coffee and donuts for days I spent in ER rooms and had to call in. Made them all Halloween bags with personalized gifts in each. Got the Sous chef and KM very nice and custom gifts for Christmas to show my gratitude.
I go into the restaurant at 7:30pm.
I know they're going to be busy, but I'm out getting medication – it's on the way. 5 minutes of bosses time (I deserve that) and I can grab my belongings.
Denied of both and laughed at.
SO. That's a lot but not nearly enough..
Did I quit.. or am I fired?
Owner/boss still hasnt responded. And she has a threshold on a lot of local restaurants.
Is this legal? (IN)
Lastly, I'm hurt. I've been in bed, crying. My friends and partner are worried about me. I've been dealing with a lot and I never thought I'd be treated this way. So, for the first time in 1 year I post on Facebook.
Never mentioned the companies name, and I'm private, so I'm not affiliated with them.
I shared how sad and embarrassed I was. And just, got it out there.. for myself?
After not being spoken to all day, I was finally texted back by the kitchen manager
KM – “This has gone too far. You will not trash us on fb. Take the post down NOW. I can't believe you would do this”
Still, nothing from my boss, who I was told to contact….. After being told to not come in.
That's a lot. I'm sorry. I'm lost. What do I do.