Hello Everyone, I'm looking for some advice. I have worked in an animal practice for 7 years. Never once had an issue. Recently I have been having some health issues (depression, anxiety, and I found out recently I'm infertile, which had a huge impact on me, since I really wanted kids) and have also gone back to college. I am taking evening classes as to ensure that I can still work full time and even ran the schedule past my boss before starting the classes. Was told that wasn't a problem. Well recently I have been struggling with some depression and anxiety. Have been late to work a couple of times and other times have forgotten to punch in and punched in and just not cared to fix my time sheet. (For other coworkers this is not an issue and the manager just fixes their time punches). Since before I started evening classes I was struggling with the early arrival and had asked her on multiple occasions to change my schedule by even 30 minutes, hasn't happened. Asked her after my evening classes to change 1 day to have me come in 1 hr after everyone else due to me not getting home until 11pm the evening prior, work opens at 8am, she told me she'd change it and hasn't. 8am arrives are a bit hard when you've only gotten 5hrs of sleep. Brought it to her attention on multiple occasions and received nothing. I've worked diligently with no issues, have always come in early or stayed late. Pulled more than my own weight. Except for when my classes started, I stay for as late as I can and even pick up extra shifts to decrease shortage during our busy times when coworkers are out sick. No thanks in return. One of our dental computers went down and I stayed late transferring records to ensure they weren't lost, no thanks given.
Well about 1 month ago, my manager pulls me into her office to discuss these “late arrivals” explained myself and she told me that I was lying and my “supervisor” was the one who brought it to her attention. Told okay if she thinks I'm lying I'll fix my time punches and move on. Especially since my 7 years of excellent work history means nothing. Well last Friday she tried to pull me in her office to sign a write up listing our discussion (she never told me that she was issuing a formal write up). I was on my way out of the building to a doctors appointment. Tried to again defend myself, she then told me I was lying again. Said “screw this” to myself, signed it and left. Called my sister who works in management in a different industry. She told me to have to document destroyed since I hadn't been informed of the write up and had a chance to properly discuss and read it. So I messaged my boss as I was in my doctors appointment, ' I told her that this was highly inappropriate since I told her I didn't have time to have an appropriate meeting or discussion about this and I wanted the paper destroyed.” Her response was she was sorry and didn't realize she I was in a hurry and we can have a meeting about it.
What I am wondering: Is there anything I can do about this write up, without reveling any of my own personal medical information to her (she is always trying to get into my personal business, especially recently). Should I contact my HR department? Again never had to deal with this. Should I just sign this write up and let it go? And if I do, will this negatively affect my future job applications. I am desperately thinking about leaving this job after all of this. There is more behind me wanting to leave, the invasion of my personal life is a big one however, along with the constant having babies discussions, even after telling multiple coworkers and my boss that babies are not in my future and I don't want to talk about it.