I'm in a job that pays pretty well for my level of experience in my area, and while it likely isn't the last job I'll ever have, I'm not looking to leave it anytime soon.
Recently there was a call set up at 7 p.m. that I couldn't make because I had a sports practice that started at exactly 7. I'm preparing for a big tournament this week and I prioritize this sport as one of the few aspects of my personality and identity outside of my job.
My boss is saying I should've made time for a 10-minute call during the work week. My position is that once I'm no longer at work (I work roughly 9-5, sometimes until 6), anything I do at that point is as a favor to him rather than something to be expected of me. I am a salaried employee, which makes this tricky, but I am not going to just go “yeah sure ok I'll do better next time boss man.”
I already told him that my conflict was a sports practice.
He's going to call me about it tomorrow morning. Any thoughts on how to handle this in a firm manner, letting him know this is not an expectation I'm comfortable with, without just telling him to go fuck himself? Might not be the best sub for this ask but it was the first one that came to mind and I figured I'd get solidarity from y'all if nothing else. Thanks!
(Edited to clarify that I already told him about the nature of my engagement that night)