i’m very new to working in a bank so a lot of it has started off overwhelming which should be of no shock to anyone as i’m typing this. i know nothing about banking yet somehow managed to get hired as an assistant manager. majority of my training is do-it-yourself while my boss doesn’t help me with much of it and i feel like that’s essential when you’re brand new but again, i wouldn’t really know what should happen because i’ve never worked in a bank.
to get into it, i’ve been feeling unqualified and that my position requires a specific person with specific characteristics that are “customer obsessed” and everyday i come in to work, i don’t feel like i fit this corporate part. my boss has also expressed to me that “you can change peoples lives working at the bank and when you do, it’ll make you feel good.” which may be true to some people but my position is solely focused on working in the teller window, auditing vaults, etc.
my boss has expressed multiple times “we’re family here” which as we all know, is a red flag. my boss’s life is her job. i tend to find it unhealthy when others obsess over their job and there’s nothing more to them. so in the mornings, she does these morning announcements to our entire staff before we open and with these announcements, she purposely calls me out for things im not doing correctly. she doesn’t give any attitude while saying it nor say my name in these announcements but i know it’s about me because im the only new hire in the last year.
yesterday was really weird and threw me off. so todays morning announcements of clearly calling me out because i’m new and don’t know anything, was the dress code. i’m suppose to be given money to buy uniform clothing. i haven’t gotten that yet so i’ve been working with what i have. she didn’t seem to believe me so i checked my work account and alas, no money given to buy clothes. she says “that’s so strange. you should’ve had that by now. well there’s nothing stopping you from ordering” which yes??? there is????? i’m not going to spend my own money on something they said they’d provide. THEN, literally right before i’m trying to leave for the day and go home, she pulls me into her office and says
“so i have the dress code printed out here for you to take because i saw last week you wore sweatpants to work”
i said excuse me???? no i didn’t. she says “you did, i don’t remember what pants they were but maybe they were leggings?” i said no, i wouldn’t wear sweatpants or leggings to a corporate bank job. i’ve never done that and don’t plan to. “oh okay well they looked like leggings”
okay, but they werent. is it the ones i’m wearing right now? “no those are fine. but here is the dress code to follow.”
then during my lunch today, her and i had a conversation for like ten minutes in the break room, she had left and then came back and sat a few seats away from me and i thought oh okay kinda weird but whatever. didn’t think much about it after. according to her, after she just reamed me about wearing sweatpants, she says “in my 20 years of working in banking and having lunch with coworkers, i’ve never just sat in silence and that was very uncomfortable. it was very awkward” then at the end of all of this, hits me with the “we’re family here!”
this is the highest paying job i’ve ever had but it really doesn’t seem worth it at all. i’m upset about how it all went and it’s pushed me further into quitting this job. i feel a little ridiculous even talking about this situation but i need an outsiders perspective/opinion