Tldr at bottom (written on april 17th 2022)
Note that this is a rambling mess because its late and I need it off my chest.
I (18f/nb) work as a full time housekeeper in a retirement community. I started there in February and I love the job, surprisingly. I have rougher days than others because I have chronic fatigue and mental illnesses.
But lately I hate the job. I have a coworker (43f) who is seemingly actively targeting me, to make me fail or just to be mean. She was the one who trained me and she didnt teach me things that are essential for the position, and proceeds to get upset when I require someone to help me. Or gets mad if I do something differently than she wants. Such as getting the stuff to start wiping down tables out because our manager told me to. She rolls her eyes when I bring up concerns to the managers during our morning meeting.
Recently though its been getting worse. I had my wisdom teeth removed the first week of april so I was gone a week, that's not exactly relevant to the story but it is to the timeline.
The friday before I left for my week long medical leave i was bussing the dining hall, there was only three of us but if I remember right it was lunch time so I'm not sure why there was only three of us… usually one person starts at one end and another starts at the other, one person gathers the water pitchers then helps one of the bussers. Its usually two people bussing each half of the dining room at lunch. Theres 4 sections, each section having 8 tables with the exception of C which has 5.
One day while I was bussing section C/D alone i got maybe half way through and my coworker bussed maybe 4 tables in A and then pushed her bus cart in the kitchen and got her and my other coworker to start wiping down tables. I was no where near done, there were no other carts to load dishes on to. So I had to bus the whole dining room by myself, overload my cart, and in the process I made my knee twist in a way I sprained it. It made me fall, which two residents who were still in the dining room talking witnessed it and one, who I used to clean his unit, kept checking on me through the afternoon. When I finally finished I pushed the cart into the kitchen, and while I was single handedly putting out placemats and napkins, because my coworker decided I could do it alone, I got yelled at by the kitchen staff.
Now, my first week back, when serving if I still have tables left, she doesnt go and ask me what tables i have left, she just goes to every table in my section and asks them if they had their order taken. She gets upset at me when I ask her if she has tables left but also says we have to check with eachother if we finish.
This Friday I was having a brain fog morning, so I kept forgetting to do some things. Specifically the toaster. In the morning whoever does section D puts away the toaster. I'm usually section D but some mornings I just forget, because when the toasters done being used it needs to cool down, so it cools while I'm bussing and when I'm bussing I'm not going in and out of the kitchen so I dont see it.
Friday I forgot to do the toaster, I went to help another coworker put out napkins when she politely reminded me to do it. On my way to the kitchen my other coworker and the laundry lady proceed to go into the kitchen and loudly talk about how the toaster hadn't been put away yet, and when I went in there to do it she very rudely tried to say that I needed to do it. I told her I was on my way to do it and she got mad, which I'm so done with her antics I got mad and hit one of the pillars in the dining room because it was the pillar or her (I have anger management issues some days). While I'm in the kitchen and the door is still open I hear her being snarky about it with the laundry lady and talking shit about me. I was so upset about it that once I finished I got my uniform on, stood in the area we have our morning meeting, left as soon as it was over, and locked myself in the sales2 room which is just a storage closet basically and cried.
I have arthritis in my legs so one day I was sitting down during my shift, for 5 minutes, I had a timer going. Just to let my legs rest for a second so I wouldn't fall over which is important cause I was dusting some bookshelves. The laundry lady was walking the halls gathering linens from us housekeepers and she made a snide comment about the fact I was sitting. Then an hour later was my 15 minute break before lunch service so I had my apron and other gear on and was sitting in a chair outside the room we keep our stuff in. The laundry lady comes by and is like “are you done with your work already” I said no I'm on break and she says something along the lines of “well then why are you sitting you were sitting down earlier”
I feel that the problem coworker and the laundry lady are ganging up against me for whatever reason. I dont know what I did to make them not like me, it's been this way since I started. When I bring it up to my bosses they say they'll talk to her but nothings changing, if anything its getting worse.
The way my coworker treats me makes me either want to off myself, hurt myself, or quit my job. I love the job though, the residents are great, and I get to work at my own pace and mostly alone. If it weren't for her I'd be happy with my job. Theres been more incidents but those were the more important ones because I injured myself and noticed that shes not acting alone anymore. I am pretty sure I'm her only target because I dont see her treat any of the other coworkers this way and even one coworker I'm closer to has made comments about noticing it.
Something else I notice is vague but clearly targetted comments at me for how I do things. For example, one day I was running behind leaving early for an appointment I needed to go to so I didnt get a chance to put my linens/garbage away/out. The next day she starts telling the other housekeepers “you have to empty your carts before leaving”. She also says that she, not our bosses, wants us to all leave at the same time yet I've witnessed her leaving a half hour before us, and sitting in her car for a good 20 minutes before actually driving off. Stuff keeps going missing off my cart, its minor things like toilet paper, but I know I had my cart fully stocked the night before. That I cant blame directly on her aside from the one day I didnt put my things away because all my rags, toilet paper, and trash, were missing off the cart.
She says we should check in with everyone to make sure they don't need help when we finish our rooms/assignments for the day but she never has come checked on me, but I've witnessed her check with others.
One thing she does is try to guilt us for coming in when were supposed to by bragging about all shes accomplished that morning because she arrives over an hour before we have to come in.
I get having bad days, I can forgive a bad day or two, but this is beyond that.
She also has complimented all my other coworkers who are newer than me for doing things like vacuuming the hallways etc but has never complimented me, despite the fact I've done the exact same things.
One resident I'm close to has said that if it doesn't get better shes going to gather some of the other residents who have had me as their housekeeper or server or witnessed any incidents talk to management. If she leaves me to bus the dining room alone again I'm leaving the dishes and cart where they were and walking away because my knee cant handle another injury like that. A week and a half later it was still bothering me.
TLDR Coworker is seemingly targetted bullying me and management is doing nothing about it and it's getting worse.
I have no idea what to do anymore, and I apologize if this has been a chaotic rambling mess. I'm mentally exhausted and I dont want to go back to work because of her.