This guy has: shoved another coworker who’s in his sixties because he was too slow to figure something out, and began yelling and flailing his arms so aggressively the other person partly blacked out
Blown up and swore/yelled at me on the phone over a minor change to the schedule so loudly that a guest overheard it
Regularly harasses me about me wanting to have my lunches with a friend at work and refuses to communicate when I ask him to tell me the lunches he wants/to never feel like he can’t take the lunch he wants. I get passive aggressive “whatever you want,” “I assume you want this lunch,” “I told our boss you want this lunch.
Will respond in passive aggressive and invalidating ways to attempts at conversation but almost always does that when no one else is around to hear.
Has made another coworker feel subjected to sexual harassment including wanting to show her something in the bathroom and highly suggested showing her “something else” twice when she didn’t respond the first time
Micromanages, withholds information regularly, slowly rechecks my work right in front of me without saying anything
Will sometimes hardly look at me all day, has snapped at me when I asked if something was wrong when he was clearly enraged, etc.
Has called another (student at the college we work at) worker incompetent and saying she shouldn’t be working here
Regularly glares at me and others. He YELLED at me while shaking that I “made him feel worthless” when I was startled that he opened and came to work 20 minutes early and I didn’t want him to open with me (didn’t want that to become a habit) and I tried apologizing later for any attitude I had. He wouldn’t look at me for the rest of the day.
All of this, and after my coworker who he shoved and after I myself complained to our boss and our bosses boss, we’re told that we have to try a “fresh start approach,” “we’re not gonna have him go around apologizing to everyone,” “you get quiet sometimes too,” “this isn’t couples counseling” (I’m not even straight and this guy is 13 years older than me). And he hasn’t even gotten a written warning yet. I don’t know who the third coworker to complain was. A fourth coworker is planning to go forward about the sexual harassment issues soon. My boss said “what did you think was going to happen?”
I had a three and a half page long list of dated examples and nothing aside from a talk with him and him having to reread the company guidelines has happened. Upper level bosses seemed concerned for a few weeks and it feels back to business as usual now.
A few weeks before I opened up to my boss about this, she asked me to take on additional work doing teamwork management/moral boosting/logistics stuff. Right after everyone got a $1/hour yearly raise anyways she chose to add on more responsibilities but not increase our pay in a meaningful amount.
I told her I really need help with work life balance (after having to work full time with a few scattered days off while I was going through a stressful move and my dad got evicted because were short staffed) and she asked me to research that myself and present my findings to my coworkers. I told her I can’t handle taking on the teamwork management thing with this dynamic and the bully at work. They’re just not doing anything real about it.
Since being talked to, he’s randomly shown the other coworker of mine, who he shoved previously, pictures of alcohol bottles and the gravestone of the founder of AA on his phone knowing that he’s a recovering alcoholic. It’s really hurting our mental health to work with this guy and I feel very demoralized.
Am I too sensitive??? Is this just normal? I even spoke to the omsbudperson and he told me the ignorant couples therapy thing again and said I can’t take things so personally. He said anywhere I work will have someone who enjoys pushing other peoples buttons but I’ve never experienced this elsewhere. Is this how the world is? If so I’d love to work from home somehow and not deal with people/bullying for a long time.