Due to my experience as a kid growing up and partially going to school, I definitely have misgivings about it. I feel like haven’t been able to completely live life. I still feel this way even now without having a kid myself.
The only difference is I can stay up later on my own terms just with repercussions if I do it on a work night. But that’s called bedtime procrastination revenge. Something kids can do that even adults do today due to work and such. I also have time I can go out for myself during free days but as an introvert this is limited too. Where you go varies with a child.
I work at a daycare and they are right when they say it can be birth control. I’m in my prime at 32 but keeping up with all 10 or more toddlers with the head teacher takes its toll. And I do love the kids I work with, don’t get me wrong.
Something about: go to school, work, do house work, maybe have a kid or two, work and raise kids or stay at home and raise kids before going back to work, find time for yourself and vacation from time to time, and find time for your family who will also die one day like you, just never felt right to me. I often cried as a teen when I thought about all this sometimes.
I felt better about the idea when my pop pop and mom mom were around but they died 2019 and 2020 respectively. Pop pop from the stress of mom moms deteriorating condition from dementia and mom moms condition being worsened. She went to rehab for a broke ankle before a retirement home, and they neglected her at rehab and stole things from her.
We got mixed reports over how she was doing. Before she died she requested hugs from nurses while in tears at the retirement home. Covid meant she couldn’t have the visitation she needed and she thrived on interaction with family.
How she was treated, how it deteriorated her further, how my two best friends who also would’ve loved to see me have grandkids they could spend time with aren’t here any longer…my pop pop was watchful of money and we don’t think it helped his impending heart attack that came later when he saw the bill prices on how much it would take to put mom mom into a retirement home.
it’s completely soured me on this system.