Hi all
This happened a little while ago but I am still traumatised. This happened in my old workplace. I am an attorney.
One of my co-workers essentially doxed my old Reddit account and presented certain posts about my workplace to my boss.
- The first post concerned my boss giving me work while I was on medical leave for 2 days. I slipped my L4/L5 disc and needed medical care. He kept emailing me to do work, and I told him I could not do it. His justification was that I am a young man and that I could get over it. The purpose of the first reddit post was to ask how to set reasonable boundaries.
- The second post concerned a former co-worker who was engaging in bullying behaviors that were very subtle (e.g. freezing me out of calls, assigning me the crap work, etc). The purpose of the post was to ask how to manage it.
Both posts did not mention the company or enough identifiable information for anybody to find out it was me. It must have been somebody who knew about my situation (i.e. my colleague who was bullying me).
During my performance review, my old boss printed out both posts and handed them to me. He said that it was likely me and that I should consider leaving the company because I am not a good fit. I denied that it was me and ultimately said that I have had a hard time in that workplace.
What is more concerning is that he did not reveal who doxed me. It was a reddit account of 5+ years which had a lot of personal information on it. The doxer could have screenshotted everything. After the dust settled, I asked to speak to my boss about it and tell him about this, and he simply avoided talking about it.
I resigned and found a company that pays a lot more. I'm still low-key traumatised. He's still friends with me on FB (he added me before all of this happened). Do I have the right to be pissed / how should I have responded?
Of course, it's a lesson in not posting anything online (or, at least, doing it on two different accounts so you can't get doxed!)