I saw that my previous comment re: recording bullies got some loving. I thought I’d share what happened when I directly intervened to stop bullying at a different company.
I worked for a small company on a small team. The manager was a bit unhinged. Her husband filed for divorce, she was suffering from health issues due to his infidelity.
She would say out loud to men who were standing with the women “this isn’t a conversation for the men. Butt out.” Mind you, it was work related so that was very sketch.
She said many times “I’m going to get A to start drinking again.” A was an alcoholic in recovery.
Another team member and I went to the VP to share our concerns, first insisting that our current manager not provide our annual review because we were sure she would retaliate. The VP assured us our conversation was private and we would not suffer any consequences.
Well wouldn’t you know. She was not fired. When annual reviews came up she rated me a 1/5 on “trustworthiness in eyes of peers.” I refused to accept and made her change it since my actual confidence among other groups and peers was definitely very high.
She cried and said she could have been a good manager under different circumstances, obviously referring to her discrimination.