Jesus Christ, where do I begin.
I interviewed for an IT sales position back in January. During the second interview I made sure to mention SEVERAL times that I was getting married out of town, and had already booked a 9 day honeymoon to the Dominican Republic. Everything went well, and I got the job.
Yesterday I went to my boss to ask about the formal PTO request policy and told him I’ll be needing 2 weeks off in October. He proceeded to guilt trip me about leaving my colleagues during our “busiest month of the year” (it’s not, I’ve asked) and said that 2 weeks is too much time to take off for a wedding, and then went on to suggest I shorten my honeymoon and do my wedding in the city I live currently instead. When I put up resistance, he suggested I bring my laptop on my honeymoon to keep up with “critical issues”. I am in SALES. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, is critical. We have entire teams dedicated to fixing problems but somehow I personally will throw off the balance of my company? Fuck out of here.
Are we all just supposed to put up with this? Am I not allowed to have a life outside of work any more?
I know that two weeks off at a time is a lot, but I made sure that everyone was aware before I was even offered a job. I did everything I could to warn my employer that I’ll be unavailable for the first half of October, and it’s still causing problems for me. Every interaction with higher ups seems to be the same- work more days, longer hours, take less time off, go above and beyond. But WHERE ARE THEY GOING ABOVE AND BEYOND?
I’m genuinely so tired of begging for common decency from people who used to be offered it freely. This model of running a business can not be sustainable. I say we burn it all down and start over.