As per title, I had several shitty experiences with most of my workplaces. I was fresh out of University, and I was in a small industry where ‘everyone knows everyone’ so we were always warned to be wary of our behaviour at the workplace. Well, I was really unhappy with some of my previous jobs, but chose to just leave without saying precisely why (it’s nothing too serious, but I’m talking about being humiliated in front of others, being told I’m too sensitive when I bring up my feelings – mind you I’m in a healthcare related industry, being made to do more than my job requires etc). Basically it was always my fault even though these places also have a high turnover rate.
After 4 years I decided to take a casual position and I cannot be happier as I can be my own boss without being subjected to workplace politics. But once in a while I get really angry thinking about how I was treated in my past jobs and wished I could contact them and ask them what the hell they were thinking. I wished I stood up for myself more and wish I could give them a piece of my mind. I feel like I never really got over it and want some form of closure. But at the same time, I feel like I should not stoop to their level, and should just go about my life. What is your opinion and what have you done to get over a traumatic or toxic workplace in the past?