Sorry if this kind of post isn’t allowed but this is the only community that I know of that can give me the proper words to say and how to say it.
So basically I have been working at a pack and ship place for a little over two years. Due to unfortunate circumstances our assistant manager and manager left at basically the same time about a year ago – not due to anything work related, AM had just finished his degree and wanted to go into a career that aligned with it and the manager had serious family issues she had to deal with. The manager at the time took me aside and told me that I would more than likely be becoming the manager after she left and began training me with all the duties only she and the AM could handle. I was totally fine with this because it was promised to me that I would become the manager, but I knew it wouldn’t happen immediately because I was still in school full time and therefore couldn’t commit to a 40 hour work week (although because of covid I began picking up extra shift after extra shift and some weeks was even pulling in overtime due to our understaffing). The owner even said to me once during the school year “how would u feel about taking ur gap year early and becoming the manager?” and I told her the truth – I wish I could but my mother was still subsidizing some of my financials and she would kill me.
Now that I’m finally taking the gap year to get my life together, the store owner hasn’t said a peep about making me the manager. I basically am, just not in title or pay. Every staff member comes to me for every question and the store owner even has to ask me questions every now and again because up until the old manager left, she was basically just functioning as the accountant and that was it.
I was okay with this for a time because I didn’t have any actual manager duties aside from standing up for my coworkers, taking over the printing and graphic design portion of the store, and making suggestions to the owner about pricing and stuff, but not 20 minutes ago the store owner turned to me and said “now that ur the print queen, the print guru, master of all things printer, how would u feel about taking on some more facets like claims or mailboxes?” I had no idea what to say as it was so out of left field and caught me completely off guard (we literally weren’t even talking – I was packing a box and she was filing paperwork – we were just a few feet away from each other at different desks). I just gave a half airy chuckle and turned back to my packing. Except I’m absolutely fuming!!!! Where does she get off asking me to take on extra responsibilities that are the managers’ – and managers only – duty when she won’t even give me the title or pay? I was okay with taking over the printing stuff because some graphic design bleeds into it and I basically saw it as getting paid to teach myself what I actually want to do with my life (art and graphic design) but there is no way in hell I am going to be handling anything else without the title and pay of a manager!!
So, if y’all could please help me draft up a script or an email or something to send or say to her letting her know in a polite and business tone that I would gladly take on these responsibilities once I have the title that they r assigned to then that would be amazing! I am a very anxious early 20’s college kid who is only just now really learning to stand up for themselves (history of abuse and poor family life) and I refuse to be taken advantage of in this way.