First, let me say, I love my boyfriend to death, which is why this issue is so bothersome to me.
I (25F) have an awesome job. It's fully remote, great benefits, all my coworkers are super supportive, and the workload is super easy, light and enjoyable. After getting my work done and even asking for more, there are still so many times I can go out and do whatever with the rest of my day for hours on end — take a walk, nap, do my hobbies, anything.
In contrast to my boyfriend's job. He's a contractor, and while he generally likes the work, working with his hands, and he makes more than me, the work is long, hard and tiresome. He has to work countless more hours than I do, with less of a safety net with benefits and whatnot since he's an independent contractor.
It started when I showed my boyfriend the music projects I've been working on. I write and record songs often in the downtime on my job, and I've recently got to complete a lot of music. I showed my music to him, he was super sweet and supportive, but later he remarked on how much I got done and how is that possible, and I told him how little I have to work and how much it gives me time to do stuff like this.
Since then, my boyfriend has made small, joking comments about my lack of workload, and there's a general sense in the air now (but maybe it's just me) of how spoiled I am by my job and how unfair it is.
Now I'm starting to feel…bad, I don't know? It sucks to see my boyfriend work so hard, and really, do much more valuable work than my cushy email job and to see the discrepancy between our lifestyles, because he has passions he wants to explore just like me. I now feel a pressure to go get a more hard-working job, but then, I don't want to — I'm comfortable here as well.
Any advice, anyone?