I (26F) am currently a server at an upscale Italian restaurant. My previous work experience was a jeweler, and I fixed and repaired jewelry there as well as sold it. A manager there had it out for me. My first month there I was nominated employee of the month, and they sent a news letter out along with my picture to all the employees. This manager came up to me and said “wow I don't know how you got there so fast, it took me 7 years.” I am a hard worker, and I used to take pride in my work. A few months later, after working hard and sending out letters to previous customers and potential new customers, and posting all over social media, trying to sell jewelry in a bad area of town, my manager and head jeweler pulled me in the office to speak to me. It was odd that the manager was there by the way.
They proceeded to tell me that I wasn't doing enough to have people come in and make sales with me. I know it was the manager saying things to my head boss. She never liked me, no matter how hard I worked and tried. She was in the room staring at me while my boss laid into me about my sales. I left the job because I thought they were going to fire me anyways. All the other jewelers at the other stores sat around and didn't put much effort into their work. I wanted to be the best jeweler at the company, but I had a manager ruin it for me.
Fast forward to now, at my serving job. If you have ever served, you know we don't sit around and do nothing, we have loads of side work to do in between tables. My head servers rear me on my side work and my sections, making sure they are flawless. I always do all my work step by step, and throughout the night I make sure everything is as good as it can be. I had a manager scream at my in front of guests saying I didn't do anything one night, and I shouldn't have left. I went up to the server that said I didn't do my section and she said I'm sorry I made a mistake. Two days later this manager said sorry to me and he was wrong for treating me that way. I said it's okay but I take pride in my work and I make sure everything is done. I can say with integrity, no other server gets grilled into doing all of their stuff and thoroughly checked like I do. Whether they are prettier, have been there longer, or whatever the case, nobody gets the treatment I do from what I see. So my question is, because I would label myself a hard worker, and get the work done, do you think management at the places I work expect more of me? Is it a social thing, because I am a chubby, quiet, brown haired, bench jeweler, people treat me different? I don't know what it is, but managers always have issues with me no matter how good of a worker I try to be, when everyone around me seems lazy and vapes constantly on the job. This is really making me not want to be a part of the workforce, and work with people.