I don’t have any real ones. The last two jobs I worked at weren’t good and the ones I did have good relations with were too long ago and I don’t speak to those people anymore. I don’t keep relations with people I worked with, especially when time has gone on. I don’t make “friends” with people. I’m friendly WITH them. But outside of work I have my own life, my own friends. Work is not high school to me. And I’m not some big fancy status at work either where I have all these connections and stuff. I work as an admin.
I’ve moved to 3 different states in the last couple years. I’m a good worker. But I always need to use my family (with fake names) because of this. And besides I think most references are people who like you. Why would a person you’re on good terms with saying anything bad? It’s so pointless. I used a friend once who I also worked with and told them to answer and speak well of me. The person called and they missed it and never called them back because they forgot and got busy.
It’s just dumb. The whole concept is so old school. It makes me think the company are sticklers who will micromanage me if they still do this.
Also, how bad is it to email your references the next day. I had my interview Friday (yesterday)… and I didn’t send my references until today (Saturday). My boyfriend basically yelled at me for not sending the references the second I got home. But I needed to figure out who I was going to pick and call my family up and I got flustered by it and put it off until today. I figured it was the weekend so they weren’t looking at their work emails (at least at my last job, I only looked at emails during work hours). He told me “now you won’t get the job because it put it off until Saturday. Don’t expect that phone call.” Which made me angry. Unlike him, I don’t have tons of connections. Hell one of his references he asked to use never even got back to him. That’s what happens when you don’t use your family.