For context I work in a little restaurant with 3 other floor staff, one shift only needs 2 people from 11-11 and 12-11. We each work around 5 days a week, meaning 55-60 hours each. The middle of the day is quiet so we get to relax, but basically my entire day is lost to the job.
I’m very close with the manager, We worked together for a few years in a different restaurant before this and we’re friends outside work so our relationship is very laid-back, even though she is senior to me.
Today I mentioned that I would like 3 days off for a few weeks if possible- as I’m kind of tired of 5 double shifts every week. I basically live at this job and I would like more time for myself to do the things I enjoy.
First she took it personally, asked if I was looking for a new job, asked if she did something wrong, then she decided to maliciously comply by giving me 5 days off next week, telling me to go for an hour break, telling me I can even have 4 days off every week, then asking permission to give me 5 days work when she’s on holiday as if I’ve been unreasonable and asked for something ridiculous.
I know her well so I know she can be very petty and vengeful over small things. I know she’ll get over it but ffs, I’m not going to feel guilty for wanting a life outside of work. She’s a workaholic, that’s her choice. But now she’s trying to make me feel guilty by basically cutting all my hours. I still need money, just not 60 hours per week. I’m a human being, I deserve to have my own free time.