Background: Due to embarrassment and shame, I am using a throwaway account for this post. 30yo female here. I worked for a 98yo man occasionally under the table, until he fractured his back 2 weeks ago. Now, he needs a lot of extra help. He has 5 dogs, 2 cats, and 3 geese, and he can't care for them anymore with his injury, so I've been doing all of it (in addition to help making his meals and cleaning his house.) On average, I spend 4 hours doing various tasks to upkeep the 8 acre property and animals daily, 7 days days week. I am no longer paid for any of this. At first, I was OK with it bc most of his money goes to the nursing home his wife is in for long term care and I felt good for giving back.
Now: his doctor told him yesterday it could be 3 months until he is healed. I don't think I can continue this much work and not get compensation; it's taking too much of my time. So how can I approach him and ask for payment for all I am doing? Also… in the past 3 weeks, he pinched my butt, makes inappropriate comments about my body, and this morning when I was wearing a sports bra, I walked in his house and got a chill from his A/C. So yeah my nipples got hard… and he said “ooh I'm looking at your nipples. They look very nice”. Like WTF, I was stunned. I said that was inappropriate and walked out. Should I bother asking for payment at all or just stop exposing myself to that? Is that sexual harassment? My guilt is keeping me around bc without me his animals would be locked up all day and not be fed. His family lives too far away to help him.
If you read all that, THANK YOU. What should I do?
Note: I would go buy another bra with more padding but I can't afford to right now. And his comments are the problem, not the way I dress. I wear t-shirts, nothing exposing. & Idk where to post this, thought I'd try here. Hope it's ok.