Both me and my wife have ADHD as well as being on the spectrum.
I became self-employed a few years ago because I was sick of it, and my wife is looking into going to college to open her own vet practice.
It seems like people who aren't perfectly healthy in terms of mental health become the punching bag of anywhere they work.
This isn't just my perception, even my wife's own co-workers state she is being treated unfairly.
Why the fuck do people like me and my wife have to be “on our best behavior” 24/7? If I'm autistic, I have “bad moments” just like any other human being on the planet. I shouldn't have to act like the rounded version of spongebob just to please people. They just don't want to deal with any issues, so they just expect more of you.
I've see so many other normal people act entirely worse than me and my wife ever have at a job and get away with so much shit. Even when my wife's work KNOWS she has mental health problems, they won't do jack shit to accommodate it. In fact they seem to make things worse for her.
All these companies state they respect people with conditions, either mentally or physically, I find this to be a load of bullshit. People think mental health is either some kind of “crutch” or “excuse” to act like they do, or they just simply believe people with mental health disorders are incapable of being “normal” so why bother treating them differently?
My wife has a small “voice” and self esteem issues. There's been quite a few times she's told me stories and it's all I can do to keep from going into her work and raising holy hell. But I know if I do that, either I'd get arrested or my wife would get fired.
They know she has issues with stress, and in situations she's been placed in due to her superiors being highly incompetent, they won't help, and then get pikachu faced when she has a breakdown, and honestly some of the shit she's dealt with would put anyone in that state of mind, but the “normies” get relief, she never does. She's “different” so why should they bother cutting her slack? (That's how they see it, not me).
I have no idea what to do, I've asked advice in other subs on advice to give my wife. Anytime they have a talk with her, and she brings up things they did wrong, they just change the subject. They know what they are doing is wrong, but don't give a fuck.
Change jobs, sure..but every fucking place is like this. On top of all this, I notice both me and my wife face criticism that isn't in proportion to what other people face. Stuff that if a “normie” did wouldn't even cause their boss to mention it, but if I or her were to, they would see it as a much larger problem.
I can't call them bullies, but it's obvious they are going to point their frustrations with the entire team on people who are less likely to raise a fuss about it.