I used to work in IT. I'm a woman. Enough said.
Things that still mess with me to this day.
-guys openly grading the few women in the office. I was given an F
-we had to check in anytime we walked away from our laptops when working from home during COVID. I typed “brb baby is crying” to which the coworker typed “why don't you just shake him” I told boss it made me uncomfortable. He did nothing. HR did nothing
-i had an illness and I was out, with doc note.i explained why I needed more time off for blood tests/outpatient etc. Boss says “maybe you don't need to work here anymore” HR says he simply didn't mean it that way.
-i filed a complaint with HR
-Boss then yells at me at a team meeting for speaking out of turn. Then pulls me in a virtual meeting with HR to say someone overheard me say something homophobic. At this point I lose it. I'm queer and this department doesn't know. I come out and tell them. They then backpedal and say oh it was a misunderstanding.
I'm actually really great with helping people who aren't comfortable with technology. But boss said that didn't matter, numbers do.
I've left and I still have issues thinking in this, what I could have done. I did what I was supposed to do by going to HR but they legit did not care.