I work for a nonprofit that represents the poorest people in our city. Ive always thought of myself as a career person, always been very independent and motivated to help people and change what i saw as the systemically fucked up power imbalance that harms the most vulnerable ppl in the community. Im in court almost every day getting berated by adversaries and court personnel, stressed af and smoking all the time hoping it will end my life sooner.
Would never admit this to myself before but im 41 now and can honestly say i envy people my age who had kids and chose domestic work. I know its not not-work but come on doing laundry, making food, going on trader joes runs, caring for my kids if Id had any, cleaning, etc. and not having to get up and toil in the rat race every day is a pretty sweet deal. Tbh i judged these ppl before but now i see the joke was on me the whole time