My father sexually abused me as a child. I recently filed a police report and to everyone’s surprise, including mine, he confessed. It is likely to go to trial and will be active for likely 2-4 years depending. I let my immediate manager know about it back in March (vague details) when a lot of the stressful activities were taking place. I did an undercover call with my dad on a Friday (after not talking to him for 10 years) and he denied it on that call. Then the following Tuesday I got a call from the detective saying he confessed. Obviously, this was all distressing and caused a lot of emotions. I tried to hold it together at work, but luckily there is a clause in the employee handbook related to crime victims. It states that the company will provide reasonable accommodations. I requested to work from home a week and my supervisor was not very understanding of what I needed and was trying to guilt trip me. Mind you, I can do all my work remotely. This boss is super needy of me emotionally and also can’t figure out basic stuff on her own, so it annoys her when I’m not at the office. And she told me that the company is only “accommodating to a point.”
Last week, I met for the first time with the prosecutor on the case. I had given the company owner a heads up and he was very supportive and understanding. He told me to take as much time as I needed. The prosecutor told me they have enough evidence to prosecute and that the case will likely go to trial. I went from being in limbo to being told I will likely face my dad in court. I was also told that due to clerical error, my dad was released on bail and the judge ruled to let him stay out. Again, very distressing. Today, I went into the office early to see if I felt well enough to be there. I was alone in the office, but I immediately felt like I should go home. I emailed the owner and also texted my boss. She called me right away very aggressively. I reassured her I would get everything done and she went on about what an inconvenience it is for her for me not to be at the office. She also said that she needs me physically there. I expressed how having me there won’t necessarily be effective if I’m a mess all day. She just didn’t get it and kept emphasizing how this is affecting her. I came home anyway, but the whole call made me very uncomfortable.
I’m likely going to email the owner about it, but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting. I didn’t ask her to pick up any slack and I simply don’t have the mental captivity to listen to her talk in detail about what items she bought at the grocery store this weekend (these are the types of conversations she has). I love the company and the owners, but this situation on top of other things with this manager is making me consider leaving. Am I overreacting?