People pleasers/codependent types – when did you start to question if you were being gaslighted into thinking you were the wrong one?

For all the people pleasing types who just wanna make their bosses happy… did there ever come a time when you realized it would never be enough? That you were made to feel guilty about something but then snapped out of it and realized it was just a toxic environment, and not you being a failure? Please share. I’m going through it right now…