So I'm an assistant manager at a decent restaurant. We recently got a new gm. He wants to make a lot of positive changes to get our store back on track. So far i liked and respected him.
My entire employment there before he arrived, I only worked at work. Was not required to answer and emails or participate in a group chat after hours while home. I am salaried but none of the work is remote, I'm in it for a 55-60 hour work week, so no, not gonna work from home on top of that.
New guy expects everyone to be accessible at all times and low key public shamed me in the group chat and by process of elimination, called me out. Even saying that managers don't clock out and are always on call or some shit like that.
I expressed to him that this was bever expected of me before and that I'd appreciate it if i was only contacted personally with pressing information or questions. I told him right off the bat that my group chat and email are off when I'm not in work and he had no objections.
I missed an earlier text as i was checking the group right before work and didn't respond til hours later. I had looked though my email that day for something personal i needed for payroll. He thinks i purposely ignored both messages but in reality i just wasn't looking for them because I'M NOT AT WORK!
I have not had a single day off or afternoon before work where i have been left alone. Someone called out on your shift? You deal with it just like i have to. Telling me who is covering in my personal text and group chat. Where is this, can you send me that, who can we call, what's this password? It never fucking ends.
I literally started going to therapy because of how stressed out i was from work and that it was always on my mind even when i was at home. Finally started to lower my anxiety and have some peace of mind, and now I'm grinding my jaw in my sleep so much i can't even close it right now because of the swelling and pain i caused myself.
I could put my foot down and set my boundaries even more, but It's not going to go well for my working relationship. Also, depression and anxiety are recognized disabilities and businesses must be able to reasonably accommodate any needs. Not bothering me on my day off seems pretty fucking reasonable to me. But again, that won't look good for me.
Already going hard trying to find another job that has better hours and pay, as well as non of this bullshit.
What the fuck do i do for now?
Tldr: new boss was good until he expected me to work when I'm not at work. I am super stressed.