I work at a high tech startup. I was talking with my therapist the other day and she strongly advised me to look for a different job because how toxic/abusive my boss is. I just started there after a work gap being a stay at home mom but I’m divorced now and need an income.
He’s a good shmoozer with the higher ups so he’s not going anywhere, I don’t think it will be productive to involve HR. I had a previous experience at a (large) tech company where they blatantly told me my job wouldn’t be available after I returned from maternity leave (because now that I’d be a mom I’d be too busy to do a proper job working nights weekends etc) and it really opened my eyes that HR doesn’t care and is only there to protect the company legally.
Leaving so quickly would really hurt my future prospects but I also don’t want to let the toxic assholery affect my wellbeing. I’m planning to stay for maybe 6 months if I can and kick ass at it while interacting with my boss as little as possible, while letting him think he’s managing me. I have plenty of projects I can mostly execute myself or collaborating with other people.
Any tips on not interacting with a boss while also not making it obvious you’re avoiding him?