He told me that he agrees that it sucks that our boss is a bully, doesn’t support us and makes no effort to care for the well-being of people she’s meant to be responsible for. But that it’s the way it’s always been and I’ll be much happier if I don’t stand up to her and don’t ever admit to her that the workload is too much or that things are falling down. He says his answer will always be that things are fine if she asks, because that’s all she wants to hear and he has survived as long as he has because he never rocks the boat or openly complains about things he knows are unfair.