I got the call just a couple hours ago while at my sister's house. Needless to say, I'm pissed off and upset, as I'm nonbinary and bras make me heavily dysphoric. Even if I wasn't nonbinary, I'm enraged that anyone thinks they can dictate my choice to wear a bra because they're “uncomfortable”.
My sister, who's been studying for the LSAT for almost a year and has had experience with discrimination herself told me to email HR along with my boss and recruiter and ask for:
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The dress code, in writing, with the parts highlighted stating exactly where it says that bras are needed.
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A proper reason for why men or masculine presenting individuals aren't beholden to the same code.
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An in-person meeting after I receive all the above materials.
She also told me to not comply under any circumstances unless they can provide proof that it's written in the dress code. Thankfully, I own no bras (for obvious reasons), so I couldn't even comply if I wanted to.
If there's any other advice out there, I'd love to hear it. I plan on looking for a new job because, to be frank, I don't feel safe working in a place like that – I can't name and shame currently, but I will likely edit later once everything plays out.
Thanks for reading.