I’m not sure what to do or what I even can do so I would really love some advice.
I am currently 1 of 2 women on my team (in STEM) and we are consistently given less responsibilities or left out of meetings. We also are not allowed to sit into interviews, only the men have been allowed to do that. My current supervisor is making this an extremely toxic workplace.
Some examples:
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Forces all of us to work every weekend but he won’t and is impossible to contact for support on the weekend
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Consistently says contradictory things to us. For example, he will tell one of my coworkers not to reply to an email explaining we’re working on a request, but tell me I need to do so.
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Had a long discussion with me about making sure I am sat down at my desk with everything opened and ready at the start time because emails that come in at 7 apparently must be replied to at 7:01 even though I don’t see or hear from him until well after 7:30.
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When anyone makes a mistake he posts it in our main chat room and blasts them for everyone to see.
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Will tell us “Don’t ask questions! You need to use critical thinking skills to figure something out” when anyone asks him anything, then when we do and make a mistake he yells at us for not reaching out and asking questions.
There is so much more and obviously none of this stuff is fireable but I genuinely cannot keep working under him.
I go home and just cry from being so stressed out at work then I wake up a bunch during the night because I start thinking about work. I have diagnosed PTSD and constantly getting yelled at and chastised instead of guided to grow is really taking a toll on me, but I feel stuck because it took me a long time to get a job in the field and I haven’t had any luck finding a tech job elsewhere. I just don’t know if there’s anything I can do. I’ve talked to him about how I feel and he just makes me feel worse. I hate that I have to be here 6 days a week when I feel miserable here and it’s making me miserably at home because I can’t stop thinking about work.
Sorry if this is jumbled my brain is not functioning correctly due to the amounts of anxiety I feel on a daily basis. I can’t focus on anything.