I (21F) am ready to leave my job due to lack of support and training. I also have an offer from my family to finish my education for free and I'd like to take it.
My supervisors have been variable in the past year, the first one (direct) didn't really care about anything, including my training and then quit. The second one (general supervisor for the area) I worked with was incredibly empathetic about the situation I've been dealt, and recently has started to get a little less cooperative. I'm now working with the second one and a third, interim supervisor who makes me feel dumb.
Over the last year most of my staff has left. I started out already missing a position, during my Monday meeting with my general supervisor, they insinuated that I was the reason. I had already made my decision to quit and shared that. They balked, offering me different positions around the region. My decision is made and I have my resignation letter already typed up for Dec 9th. They asked me to take a little time to think about it as they don't want to lose another staff member, and then to provide something in writing (resignation letter). There are some variables in the mix here and I don't want to get burned.
My housing is provided by my employer right now, and after I quit I have 2 weeks free to move out. After those two weeks, I'd pay $35/day. I'm looking for housing in the area my school is in, and I'm definitely shopping for a deal ($850-$1200). If I can't find a good deal, there are more expensive options that I can work out with my family so I'm not too worried either way ($1200-$1600). My partner plans to contribute to our housing cost as well, but will probably be able to contribute max $600. My family has asked if I could try and keep their contribution around or under $1000/mo. With all of this in mind, should I make sure I have a lease signed before I move forward or am I okay to submit my resignation?
My partner (22M) currently works as a contract painter for his friend's business. He's not on the books yet, and usually they work about 2 weeks out of the month, he averages around $1,400/mo. He will be moving from an hourly wage to a percentage per job soon too, as his friend wants him to get a fair share. Up until this point, I've taken care of a majority of our expenses and housing. He's concerned about making rent, and I've offered a ton of solutions. I can advertise for his friend's company, I can help him set up his own painting business (his friend is encouraging him to as well), I can help him find a part time job. He's scared as he feels that we're losing our safety net, he doesn't know my parents well enough and his own parents don't help him financially. I'm also considering to pick up part time work while we iron his end out, I have an interview for a part time real estate assistant position this weekend and a few other prospects at play. I'm also saving 3k before I quit to try to make sure we have a healthy cushion if he needs it. Should I wait until he has more job security and to submit my resignation?
Finally, I just hit the point where I really can trust my parents. We have a history of abuse due to my mom's untreated ptsd, and she has improved rapidly ever since I started standing up for myself and she's gotten help. She's here for me now, and I'm excited about our adult relationship, but I'm also concerned about giving them this much control. My parents also have a lot of concerns about my partner. They don't love that his family is not willing or able to support him financially, or that he doesn't have an education. He's still figuring things out, we're young! My mom keeps saying that if we're in each other's destinies, then no one can stop us. She also told me that her parents didn't want her to marry my dad and she made the right decision not listening to them. But this doesn't take away from her having concerns and I think that's fair.
I want to submit my resignation letter today, as I'm confident that I can make this all work. To me, the relief of knowing for sure that I'm leaving this hellscape outweighs the uncertainty of what's to come, and I know I can step it up no matter what. I'd just love some thoughts and opinions on if I'm making the right decision by putting it in today.