My instincts are telling me to back out.
I really need the money, but I’ve already gotten bad vibes from him (the manager). He’s already shown that he isn’t willing to compromise on matters that will help promote a healthy work-life balance (trying to schedule me for more days than I asked for, was very visibly angry when I told him about asking for two shifts off next week for a wedding), and I’ve heard from a number of servers that “that’s just the way he is- don’t take it personally”, which is a huge red flag for me.
Money and my time at work is, and always has been, a support system for my actual life. Not the other way around. And this isn’t the first time a manger or supervisor has tried to cross that boundary.
I don’t know if I’m just exhausted from today’s shift, but I feel angry and worried about what I might be getting myself into.
I haven’t done formal paperwork yet, so now is the time to back out, but I don’t like telling people no- I’m annoyingly sensitive (working on advocating for myself more, though). I hate wasting people’s time and burning bridges, and I also really like everyone else who works there. So this is tough for me.
If you have any advice or a similar experience, I would love to hear it. I’m gonna sit with my thoughts and a cold beer for a while tonight as I consider faking my death and going to live out in a forest somewhere.