I made a post a week ago about resigning. Since that, management has completely ignored my existence and acts like I'm not in the room. Haven't even acknowledged the notice either, just informed the Benefits and Payroll lady (whom is super nice and said she'll miss me). I feel this is kinda babyish, but I dunno.
I made the decision to quit after 4 years with the company because of a god awful lead hand.
The drama my one lead hand wouldn't stop causing. He has always had this way about himself, but it really flared up after his divorce. He said she just got “tired of being with him after 13 years” so she upped and left. As in, that's the entirety of the story. I just feel there's alot of holes in this and more to why someone would just walk away from a long term relationship. Then he continued to tell me about how he was gonna move on from her and be sooooo happy. Essentially this was going out with as many of his easy lady friends that would screw him and wanting it to get back to his ex. Anything that he thought would hurt her, he'd want to post on social media and tell to their mutual group of friends to tell her. He also wants to have a tight relationship with her daughter to take a huge dig at her. So, this gives you an idea on his maturity level.
He was a huge manipulator. He always wanted me to go above and beyond to make sure the work got done. Which is my work ethic 100%. He would make me stay behind (on my own time) to tell me who I should've done more for or carried through (people couldn't do their own job because they'd be screwing around). There's too many times I'd be doing 2/3 people's jobs and these people would just stand there. I had taken it to him directly and he'd just act sympathetic towards me or create an excuse. “They're pretty young”, “They were working hard when I came back here”, or ” Good thing we have you to be a great example for them to hopefully look up to one day. ”
He backed an abusive coworker/first aid attendant. She'd gone around telling anybody who'd listen that I was pregnant. I'd unfortunately miscarried and had to tell those she informed when they asked me when I was due. He told me that she was rightfully upset with me because I didn't help her when I could've. She has been there for over a decade and moves at her own pace because she expects those around her to help. Anytime he'd express his disappointment with me, he'd almost always bring up the times I didn't go above and beyond for her even if it didn't pertain to that conversation. I'd eventually shut him down whenever I knew where it was going. “I understand you feel (name) is rightfully upset because I didn't sacrifice more of myself for her. But this conversation has nothing to do with her and I am not going to discuss her. You are, however more than welcome to talk to her and comfort her on your own time. “
He'd often put me in no win situations. I work in a production plant and count on the shipping department to bring my materials for me to build special units. Often times they wouldn't bring me enough for the number of units scheduled that day. At first I was told to just go out to the center warehouse and sign the components out and bring inside. I would gather a huge list, run out and gather it all while the next station was busy, come back, do more units to keep the line going, and then complete the special units now that I had the supplies to do so. He'd get livid with me over doing this because it “wasn't my job.” I'm aware of this, but it doesn't change the fact I need to keep the line going before more at pulled onto it. He scolded me for not leaving my station to find him and ask him to go out and sign the parts out. He'd take over 45 minutes to do this task and only return with only enough parts for just the units back when he left. So, he'd complain about making multiple runs.
He enjoyed setting limits for me. I know how to do almost every position on my side of the plant because other lead hands have shown me how to do something and signed me off on it. He'd pick apart the way they taught me and insisted he had a better method, which he'd insist on showing me and criticized whenever I didn't do it his way. If an honest mistake was ever made, he'd be super disrespectful and would hilight it whenever possible… months later. He'd try to find even the smallest faults he could and tell me he'd “let it go because it was so minor.”
He'd insist I need help with something that I didn't. You know when normal, well intending people ask you if you need help and you thank them, but tell them no thanks? Then they usually leave you alone? He'd stand there arguing and double down while I went about doing it myself. At one point, I just started ignoring him and walked away. He would shout, “THAT WOULD'VE BEEN SO MUCH EASIER IF YOU LET ME HELP YOU. ” After he knew he'd be ignored, he'd just force his help onto me. Sometimes he ended up making a huge mess by doing so that would've been avoided if he'd fucked off.
He'd get angry if I asked for anybody else's help. They'd start helping me do something and he'd tell them he could do it and force them to leave.
The other lead hands are sad to see me go, but they understand and have even volunteered to help with being a reference.
I realize this is getting insanely long. But the last very memorable toxic trait he had was using my type 1 diabetes against me. He tried weaponizing my husband and endocrinologist against me. When they both stood up for and behind me, he'd insist I must have lied to them.
There's a newer employee that started and is still within her probation. To say she's a huge kiss ass is an understatement. She sings this guy's praises and thinks the sun shines out of his ass. I'm supposed to train her as she's kind of my replacement. I've tried to do this and she's all but refused because she'd rather he show her.
Oh baby girl, I can't wait for you to take my place. Sucker.