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How do I say no, especially as I’m leaving for a new job

I currently work in hospitality but have a more stable 9-5 job lined up, to be started soon. I told my current job, worked a longer notice period than I had to because I didn’t want to leave them short, and am still working a bunch of shifts and come in to help on days I’m scheduled to be off. I find it really hard to say no. They ring to ask me to come in at bad moments so I’m caught off guard and can’t think of a reason to say no. As I’m leaving soon this shouldn’t be an issue, but they’ve already discussed keeping me on the rota and that I can work Friday and Saturday evenings to help them out. I did say I didn’t mind working the occasional weekend when it suits me, as the hourly pay is good. My boss twisted this, saying she…


I currently work in hospitality but have a more stable 9-5 job lined up, to be started soon. I told my current job, worked a longer notice period than I had to because I didn’t want to leave them short, and am still working a bunch of shifts and come in to help on days I’m scheduled to be off.

I find it really hard to say no. They ring to ask me to come in at bad moments so I’m caught off guard and can’t think of a reason to say no.

As I’m leaving soon this shouldn’t be an issue, but they’ve already discussed keeping me on the rota and that I can work Friday and Saturday evenings to help them out. I did say I didn’t mind working the occasional weekend when it suits me, as the hourly pay is good. My boss twisted this, saying she wants to put me on the rota Fridays and Saturdays in the lead up to Christmas, and when I said that I took a Monday to Friday job so I can see my boyfriend at weekends (he’s moved a distance away for uni so cannot see him during the week), she said I can just see him after Christmas. I don’t think she was joking.

How do I say no. I’m going to have a conversation tomorrow with a supervisor or someone above me to try to make sure they know I’m not working every weekend, I’ve taken on a 40hr/wk new job for gods sake, I’m not working 50+ hours a week with no social life.

I’m also not sure if I should mention any other rude comments my boss made. When I told her I was leaving as I wanted a stable salary to prepare for if I ever want a house/mortgage she laughed and told me I’m not getting a house anytime soon, as if she has any clue about my finances? She also made fun of another member of staff who said she wanted to work in a lab (science degree) as “only boring people work in labs and you’ve got too much personality for that”.

I’m so worried that once Ive left I’ll just be out on the rota anyway and I’ll be up to me to message every week saying that I can’t do that shift. I get enough anxiety when I have to do that when I’m scheduled in for days I’ve already told them I’m away.

What’s the best way to rectify this situation? My parents don’t want time to be too harsh in case this new job doesn’t pan out so I could return if needed, but I’m just nervous about this all. I’ve got enough nerves about starting a new job, it’s ridiculous that I’m nervous about leaving.

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