Last week, I had a “fight” with a woman on my team.
This woman has been micromanaging projects I have been trying to work on for well over a year. She doesn't know how to do what I do. She has fucked up several things I have been worked on, causing me to go in after hours to fix it so that it's ready for launch.
She's a manager, but she's not *MY* manager. I call her the Boomer because she is all-encompassing of all things negative about the boomer mentality. She's been at the company 20+ years and has not been thrilled about the company buy out by a bigger more liberal corporation.
Well, in order to appease her and just to keep the project moving along, I email her (with my supervisor, who is her supervisor) the progress of the project every few days to make sure her expectations surrounding the said project have not changed (because they have changed daily). Well recently, I sent her the project update and she wanted to schedule a meeting without our supervisor to tell me about “big changes from higher up than me”. So I firmly told her that if there are big changes from “upper management” that I would prefer our supervisor on the call so that I wouldn't have to act like a middle man relaying this info from “upper management” to him when he asks why I am working on it. She blew up at me. Saying that I waste her time and that I should be so lucky to be working on this project. And hung up. I was crying by the time she hung up because I was trying my best to de-escalate the situation, but she had said a few other choice words that I just couldn't keep it together. Plus, this is my job… I am not lucky… Its a job. Am I lucky to have a job, sure. Am I lucky to be working on this project… Fuck no, not with her.
I, of course, let our supervisor know, and I told him the way she spoke to me, regardless of what pressure she is under is wholly unacceptable. I am part of this project and part of this team and that he trusted me to make decisions and that me giving her these check-ins was solely for her benefit. He agreed that her manner of speaking was terse and that she was under a lot of stress and he would tlak with her… But this isn't the first time she has lashed out at me, and I am not the first person she lashed out at. So I really don't know if she's gonna change.
I still don't know what “big changes” are coming but, honestly I don't care. I don't want to email her to find out. I stopped working on the project and now am instead working on school work and working on “work certifications”(like Salesforce Admin stuff) during work hours and contemplating :
“Do I go to HR, does it count as bullying?”…
“This is burnout at its finest” …
“I am gonna complain on Reddit about it because IDGAF and like them a lot more than 90% of my coworkers”
“If I was offered a new job tomorrow, should I even give notice? I think my notice would be driving my workstation to the nearest onsite facility and saying “I do not work here any longer because the Boomer is a big