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I am trying to convince my boyfriend to not work at the expense of his mental and physical health, but he absolutely disagrees with me

Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but I am genuinely concerned for him. He's a student who found a good job to do on the side of his masters. It's 1.5 times the minimum wage, so I was exstatic for him (he needs the money). The main points: His boss is iffy. Has a a surprising amount of legal trouble on his shoulders, a weird payroll system, a disregard for the law. Claims his company has been up for 10 years when legal documents state it's only been up for 5. Says he'll provide a work vehicule to people being paid minimum wage (did not do). Looks for the absolute cheapest he can pay people, which by extension is the reason why he has so much legal trouble. Asks boyfriend to fulfill tasks in ridiculously slow windows of time (like paint a whole 9 square meters…


Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but I am genuinely concerned for him.

He's a student who found a good job to do on the side of his masters. It's 1.5 times the minimum wage, so I was exstatic for him (he needs the money).

The main points:

  • His boss is iffy. Has a a surprising amount of legal trouble on his shoulders, a weird payroll system, a disregard for the law. Claims his company has been up for 10 years when legal documents state it's only been up for 5. Says he'll provide a work vehicule to people being paid minimum wage (did not do). Looks for the absolute cheapest he can pay people, which by extension is the reason why he has so much legal trouble. Asks boyfriend to fulfill tasks in ridiculously slow windows of time (like paint a whole 9 square meters room in under 10 min)

  • Boyfriend has been working long days, not clocking in or out (which he says is fine, his employer will add up to his time when doing payroll) working late nights on weekend. It's past eleven on a saturday and he is STILL at work. He is stressed trying to complete tasks in ridiculous amounts of time and is acting like his boss's secretary, writing emails for him, communicating with third parties and arranging meetings when that's waaay out of his job description. His contract is funny, clearly written by a non legally knowledgeable someone, due to the extensive amount of typos and things straight up illegal in it.

On the other hand, i know he needs the job and it's a great opportunity he shouldn't be giving up. On the other hand, I am genuinely and viscerally concerned for him. This job is affecting his mental health (constant stress, constantly on his mind etc) and physical health (the lack of sleep). It also pays really well for his level of qualifications (he is smart but in a shitty country, so may not find an opportunity like this again). I'm not asking him to quit just to mind his health, that no job is worth that, but he absolutely wont listen to me. What can I do? Am I in the wrong? Please correct me if so.
Thank you for reading and helping.

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