So… I (20F) work for a local community center type of building. Here, I work at the front desk, helping people check in, sign up, answering phones, things of the like. I enjoy the job a lot!
Other than my boss, A. She has been extremely difficult to work with. For context, A is my department's boss, B is her boss.
This all started two weeks ago. I felt awful, had trouble breathing, and had a panic attack which resulted in me leaving early. Turns out, I had COVID. I immediately go down my contacts list, starting with my coworker, who happened to be at the top (this is important). I text everyone within minutes of each other, “Hi, I have COVID. Get tested, stay safe”, essentially.
Well two days ago was the first time I saw A since the panic attack. She asked if I was okay, and I said yes, I appreciate it. She then said that I seemed to be “acting weird”. She cited that I “texted my coworker and B before texting her”. When I asked what she meant, she said it was in regards to me letting everyone know (within seconds of one another) that I had Covid.
She also asked further about my panic attack. I had said “Well, with the Covid thing as well as my anxiety disorders and autism, the job gets very overwhelming at times, but it's manageable and I enjoy it!”
She then says, disappointedly, “What? That's something you should have told me from when you were hired.” I am not required to disclose this information at any time, especially not at the time of hire.
Then, she tells B. Not just that we had a conversation, but specifically about my autism.
I asked her to keep it confidential, and she said “I told B already.” No apology, no consideration for if I wanted B to know or not. It's my business who I tell and when, and nobody, especially my manager, should violate that. Right…?
Anyways, there's more.
I'm available to work Tues-Sat. This was discussed at my time of hire. Well, this month, I was scheduled for 2 mondays and a sunday. I explained I cannot work these days, and immediately she said that I was “told upon hire that I'd have to work an occasional Sunday if one of the usual workers requested off”. Which, I was not. I haven't worked a Sunday in my life, even as a teen. I would not have allowed that.
She then made me find coverage for the shift that she scheduled me for outside my availability.
The next day, she pulls me into her office, and shows me how difficult scheduling is. She says “this is why, when you send me your availability at the last minute, it makes it harder”.
I sent her a color coded availability calendar a month before the schedule was even released.
When I told her this, she says “I'm not even going to address that”, and continues to scold me for not giving her my availability.
So then, I had enough. I applied at another location and didn't tell anyone; I wanted to secure the position before breaking the news. I told her today, offering to work at both locations, to which I was met with hostility. Lots of hostility.
For context, lot of people work at both locations, roughly 10 minutes from one another. In fact, a lot of people who live within walking distance of this location drive 20 minutes to the other one solely to avoid A.
Texts she's sent to me:
After asking about having a coworker cover a shift: “No more texting about this shift. I spoke to B and we’ll figure all of this out.”
After asking if I could help out at A's location a day or two a week like many others do: “After July, if you are offered the position at [other location] i think it’s better you stay there.”
After asking for further clarification over text: “[my name], I am not doing the back and forth. Please see B”
TL/DR; my manager told her boss that i have autism without my consent, scheduled me outside my availability, and has created a hostile work environment after finding out I had applied elsewhere. What do I do? Should I do anything? I'm not necessarily asking if I'm in the wrong, but is she? Is this normal for a boss? Or is this all in my head?
Thank you for reading btw.