I have IBS and it causes me to be late for work between 0-3 times per week. My boss has known this for quite some time. He has said this doesn’t affect him, and just to communicate about my ETA. Fine by me.
9 months into my 1 year of employment, HR and the GM (my boss’ boss) started noticing this behavior and got cranky about it. My boss communicated to me that I need to try to come in earlier and try not to spontaneously work from home (which, LOL, IBS is spontaneous).
So, I did make an effort over 6 weeks to work in the office more, be on time, even do overtime. However, my boss would still surface the complaint, and we’ve both been getting visibly uncomfortable that the issue is still being harped on. So I said, “fine, we’ve never formally addressed that this is disability driven. Let me talk to HR and GM.”
They acted sympathetic – “we’ll totally work with you, just go to the doctor and get this form filled out.”
My mistake was thinking I could do this at my convenience. Appointments are still hard to come by.
Apparently, this was a more urgent request.
I got called two weeks later to a check-in meeting with HR and GM that I apparently agreed to, but was never put on my calendar. I said I hadn’t gotten around the the paperwork yet, and the GM said, in a read-between-the-lines way, that if I can’t get the note proving my disability causes me to be late, that I’m fired.
So, although I can absolutely prove that I have a health issue, I feel picked-on and like they don’t trust me.
Other events have occurred that support this feeling, and I’m not sure there’s a path forward that doesn’t involve me quitting outright, or giving two-weeks (though I will be showing them partial medical records so I don’t look like a liar).
Anybody been here? What would ya’ll do? The situation is so damn uncomfortable!