So my team had a gathering this Christmas weekend, and some of our teammates flew in from another city. I never confirmed my going to this party, and I just wanted to spend this day off with my partner so I didn't go. Then the manager texted me and tried to gaslight me into going. So I told a white lie that I was out of the city, then she asked:”Send me a picture, I don't believe you.”
I mean, what the hell was that??? I am allowed to have a life, right? This is not the first time the manager has cornered me into going out with the team. I'm not the type of anti-social or anything. But as an introvert, it requires energy for me to socialize with other people. And one more thing, I want to spend my holidays doing what the hell I want.
Could you please suggest how I bring this up with the team without sounding like an asshole.