Before anyone says it-
Yes you can be disabled and successful. I’m WELL AWARE.
You can also be disabled and fucking homeless so
I’m disabled. My partner is also (very very likely) disabled. They suspect they have at least two neurodevelopmental disorders. The “biggest” one would be autism.
My partner has never had a job (we are both young but adults) and is being pushed to get one by their parent. They’ve shown me the job descriptions a few times now and it’s upset me. Half of it is a list of requirements that most people with autism cannot do or cannot do “well”.
How the fuck are people supposed to survive if they’re not allistic (not autistic) and able bodied??
Im worried about what it may do to his self esteem and just overall mental health. I mean every damn listing is just a reminder to him that he can’t DO THESE THINGS. Especially rn! He’s spent his whole life undiagnosed and not being taught how to function as someone who is different in todays world. Im hoping when he gets treatment he will be better able to cope but what the fuck does he do till then?
Yeah there’s disability pay, which for starters again he’s not diagnosed yet so the government doesn’t give a fuck. I’ve seen ppl on disability talk about how ridiculous it is and doesn’t pay shit. Plus, on disability if you ever want to get married you’re fucked. You can lose disability when you get married. Ppl on disability im pretty sure can’t adopt kids ever, and although I have no interest in doing so soon it’s ridiculous. I’m hoping to go to school for an okay paying job too, so if they get on disability and I get an okay job, when we are in the same household they’ll likely lose that bc I make too much money (yet most likely not enough to pay for us both and our expenses)
It’s making me worry, too, abt myself. My problems aren’t as bad as his but what the fuck does my future hold? What stupid shit do I gotta deal with bc of ableism and my own disability?