A series of events this past week has led me to composing my resignation letter in anticipation of handing it in this Friday. Just looking for some outside opinions to see if my current attitude is justified or not. I think I know the answer already but when has it ever hurt to ask the internet!
So for a bit of background, I am a trans woman. I began my transition in 2020 and have yet to come out in the workplace as it is not a very LGBT friendly environment. No idea how I haven’t been outed yet as my appearance has drastically changed but we can save that for another post. As such,I have been actively hunting for a new job.
This past Friday I told my boss I had a bad case of diarrhea but would be working from home like the dedicated piece of shit I am. I did not disclose that I wanted to be able to take a phone call for an interview I had lined up in relative privacy.
On Sunday my partner and I made a spontaneous decision and bought a puppy. Yeah, go us! I sent my boss a text letting him know and asking if he would be cool with me working from home for the week so I can keep an eye on the dog to make sure she is ok and in good health. No problem so far.
I spoke with my boss again on Monday morning to check in, let him know I would be booking a day off for vet appointments this week, still all good.
Yesterday I received an email from my boss’ boss which I interpreted as incredibly passive aggressive and slightly intimidating. Essentially that he approved my day off request, but had included a note that he expected me in the office for the remainder of the week (which I had no knowledge of). He expressed that he would like to accommodate where possible but did not want to put “undue hardship” on my fellow employees as we are apparently short staffed in the office this week.
I suspect the email was sent and worded the way it was so he can put it in a file to be used against me if need be and so was very careful in my response. I explained I was unaware of his expectation, and a call or text to confirm would have been a good reminder. I also explained the conversation I had with my boss who was totally understanding and fine with the situation. 95% of the work we do can be done remotely anyway, so no harm no foul in his eyes.
Today I get in to the office and my fellow employees were VERY surprised to see me. No one was experiencing any “undue hardship” and they were actually quite upset that I was not at home with my new fur baby. I’m still fuming that I’m here at all. It seems to me that upper management just wanted to exert some control and prefers a full office to a happy workforce. This is just the final straw on a large large pile.
My question to Reddit is this, am I overreacting? Am I justified in my reaction? Should I have left this job long long ago?