A few months ago, I find a software engineer at a Big Tech company on LinkedIn. They’re the opposite gender, if that matters. I message them, and we set up a time to talk.
We chat over video, and as our scheduled midday meeting time comes to a close, I offer to end the call.
They reply, “No, it’s okay. I’m enjoying this. We can keep talking,” with a big smile.
During the call, they tell me to work on projects.
We eventually end the call on a positive note, and they say that since the call has gone well, they feel happy to give me their email. They also say that they’re passionate about mentoring people like me.
After the call, I notice they change their LinkedIn profile pic from a “solo” pic of just them, to one of them with their spouse kinda showing in the edge picture. Hm…
Anyway, in the past while, I send them a message, with a software project I’ve worked on, asking them if they feel interested in joining the project and turning it into a business. I wait a few days and then send a follow up email. No response.
So I wait and then send a different email, just asking to check in. No response.
So then I wait and send a follow up email to that. No response.
So then I wait and send a friendly check in message on LinkedIn. No response.
So now I see that they’ve read the LinkedIn message, but they have yet to reply. I’ve considered sending a follow up to that, but I feel a bit worried.
Idk why they’ve seemingly ignored my attempts to keep in contact, as we have arranged.
Do they worry about mentoring someone of the opposite gender? Do they feel turned off by the posts I “like” on LinkedIn? Has their spouse expressed suspicion about how much the person and I got along on our first call?
While I would like to avoid thinking I have everything to do with their ghosting, my looking inwardly seems like the only thing I can do to consider how I may have contributed to things apparently going sour.
The feeling of getting ghosted has left me feeling unsettled and unsure. I have hitherto counted on them keeping their word, and now I feel lost.
Help?