Im on mobile so sorry for the format.
For context I (20m) work at a fast food chain in the uk, I have complex PTSD, depression and a whole host of other mental illnesses stemming from childhood sexual assault and rape (this is important later). Any way my boss is a middle aged typical greggs pastie loving pub dwelling meat eating “alpha” who thinks their opinion is the uptmost authority regarding anything.
I did training in a different store as ours was still being build and for that month everything was fine. Cue the store being ready to work in. Its maybe the first day that im in the store and I need to speak to a manager he is the only one there. Maybe a week or 2 earlier I have been sexually assaulted coming home from a night out, and to get to work I have to walk directly through that area. I explained this and about my previous trauma and then asked if I could have nights off and a reduced shift till I got back on my anti depressants and started therapy for the incident. He said I can but he doesn't understand why because he deals with stuff like this by making tic toks.
So I start working on and for the next month he would make snide comments and condescending remarks towards everyone not just me but then it I started getting put on late shifts and it would be dark bt the time I left. I tried talking to him again and he said he would sort it. Now I found out that he oversees and manages the rota and could have very easily put me on lates on purpose. Turns out that's what he did the next week i was getting late shifts out the arse and he had also reduced my hours so that I was only working 5 hours instead of the 7, 8 or 9 that I was doing.
I tried finding out how to get into contact with hr and put a post in the work group chat. Almost immediately he messaged me asking g if there was anything he could do. I just asked how to get in contact with hr and so he calls me princess and proceeds to stone wall me. He calls me after calling me princess and says the only way to get to hr is by writing him a letter addressing everything that's wrong and he can sort it. Now I still haven't dont this as its a conflict of interest if im complaining about him in a letter addressed to him.
Ive had problems with attendance in the past due to the afore mentioned mental health problems and the fact I get ill really easily. At a review he was supposed to do on week 4 (he did it on week 8) he told me that ive had 7 absences in the 3 months ive been working. Now I know that's alot and I'm working on rectifying that however he also told me that im not allowed to be late by even a minute im not allowed to leave early for ANYTHING (sickness included) im not allowed to stay off for anything. Now while he was telling me this I was having a panic attack it had started before he started the meeting before i knew about the meeting and he knew that yet he proceed to belittle me and poke fun at me while I was in this state.
Im supposed to have a meeting with his boss who is acting as hr but he hasn't called me yet and its been about a week since the scheduled appointment was.
The last week I've been extremely depressed, i am diagnosed with agoraphobia and hav head therapy relating to it but after seeing my abuser it's came on strong again I rang in and told him, I got the response of “oh so you can go on a work night out drinking but you can't leave the house for work” the work night out I stuck with people who promised to protect me and I felt safe with plus it was before I saw my abuser.
On top of this he's been horrible to many co workers too. I won't go into detail as its not my place but the stuff he has done to them is abhorrent.
I guess im writing this because I needed to get it off my chest and I think I need advice. Anyway sorry for the long read hope you have a lovely day. 🙂