HR sent this musing out a week after my company did their first 1-on-1 reviews with employees in like a decade…and reviews only happened because enough new hires were like “wtf we don't even know our stats but we still have to hit goals?”
“This thought was given voice in the recent 1-1 Review meetings and was shared with me by the individual’s manager.
I won’t share the whole thing because after all, these reviews are private, but I do want to share the bit that gave me pause for thought.
Broadly speaking we can all assume one of two approaches to life and work – we can be value-takers or we can be value-givers.
Value-takers tend to ask what others can do for them – family, friends, neighbors, employers, co-workers.
Value-givers tend to offer help and try to add value to the experience of others – family, friends, neighbors, employers, co-workers
Value-takers derive their reward from what others can do for them and tend to be the ones who ask to borrow things, seek favors or rewards
Value-givers look for ways to help and support others and derive their reward from knowing that they have made a positive difference to someone else
Value-takers tend to solicit the appreciation of others and expect to be recognized for what they do.
Value-givers tend to express their appreciation to others and are not looking for extrinsic rewards
What is most interesting is that value-givers tend to be way happier than value-takers.
Pablo Picasso said, “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
One of our own team said, “If someone expresses that they don’t feel appreciated, the antidote should be for them to find ways to show their appreciation for others””
i googled some of the phrases and it seems to all come from PUA, MRA, and productivity influencer type reddit/youtube shit.